A MiddleWeb Blog
It’s report card time again. This marking period we are required to write comments for the parents, along with the perfunctory A’s, B’s, and C’s. This is a time consuming venture, but one I admit I do enjoy, once I zero in on the task at hand.
The comments on each of my student’s report cards are often the only chance I get to describe to parents, in written form, my picture of their whole child. I realize it is only a snapshot of who that child is. It only reflects life at school. But it’s an integral piece of the puzzle. I can do my best to provide an open rendition of my observations and opinions as the teacher. I have many of these.
In his article What Teachers Really Want to Tell Parents, Ron Clark (founder of the Ron Clark Academy in Atlanta) discusses many of the difficulties that teachers who want to provide honest reporting of academic, emotional, and social progress may encounter. Discussions are often hindered by the obstacles that cause strained relationships between home and school. It’s unfortunate.
I have had my share of parents who, intentionally or unintentionally, have fastened on a set of blinders when it comes to their children and the challenges they face as learners.
“Rather loud and voiceful”
About a year ago, my mother found my report card comments from pre-school. She handed me the weathered, two page document. It was neatly typed on a manual typewriter and didn’t contain a single punctuation mistake or grammatical error.
I must admit, I got a smile out of reading about myself. I don’t remember that five-year old very well.
Mrs. Underwood’s report was broken into categories that someone at the time had deemed representative of the whole child: Social Qualities, Intellectual Qualities, Emotional Development, Routine Habits, Physical Abilities, Play Activities, Music and Art Skills, and Language. This seems like a pretty well-rounded picture to me.
In Mrs. Underwood’s opinion, I was a pretty neat kid. I chuckled a bit when I got to her language assessment. I expressed my ideas “clearly and distinctly” but the five-year old version of me also “let her emotions get the better of her, and then had the tendency to be rather loud and voiceful.” Some things never change.
I think Mrs. Underwood meant what she said. I imagine there were times when those emotions of mine caused her some strife, but report card comments aren’t the proper forum to discuss these specifics. Besides, as Clark points out in his article, teachers are walking on eggshells these days. Some parents are quick to attack the teacher, or the education system in general, instead of taking a closer look at reality and the needs of their child. Our ability as educators to give open, accurate, and honest assessments to the parents, our “partners” in education, has become distorted.
Writing on eggshells
The parent community in my district is very supportive. I have had very few truly uncomfortable moments with the parents whom I’ve worked with over the years. As a matter of fact, I have experienced many honest, open, heart-breaking and heart-warming conversations with these parents.
This makes it easier to keep positive when dealing with the parents who close themselves off to my opinion, as a professional, about how their child is doing in my classroom. I want the report card comments they receive from me to be accurate, but there are certain things that you just can’t write down for posterity on a report card. I have managed to find some clever ways of trying to make my point when writing these comments.
Perhaps it would be fun to take a look at some of them, to analyze their level of accuracy, and to determine whether my message may have been lost in translation as a result of the eggshells I find under my feet. (Disclaimer: The names have been changed to protect the guilty…myself included.)
“Jimmy is often late for school. As a result, he starts each day a little bit behind the rest of us. It would be helpful, because of the challenges that he has staying organized, paying attention in class, and transitioning from one activity to the next, if he could get to school on time each day. This would enable him to participate in our morning meeting, hear our plan for the day, and assist him in developing the organizational skills he will need to be a successful learner.”
TRANSLATION: Your child is late for school every day! And we’re not talking five minutes late. We’re talking twenty-five minutes or so…EVERY DAY! He comes in, in a bit of a daze, knocks over random classroom supplies as he swings his backpack around. He spends five to ten minutes unpacking, as the other kids stare dumbfounded from the rug, trying to pay attention to the lesson that began 15 minutes ago, but distracted nonetheless by his noisy entrance and complete inability to organize himself and his materials. Our class loses a big chunk of valuable learning time every day because you can’t get it together enough to get your kid to school on time. You only live a few blocks away from school! Get on the ball! You are really doing him a disservice, and your ineptitude is disrupting to me and 19 other children who are trying to learn and explore the world of elementary academia!
“Stephanie has some difficulty working with a small group. She is eager to share her ideas and opinions; however, we need to encourage her to give other students in the group a chance to voice their ideas as well.”
TRANSLATION: It is really difficult to include your daughter in small group work because none of the other children want to work with her. She bosses everyone around, makes nasty comments, and dismisses any idea that is not her own. She is becoming a social pariah, and we really need to help her work on developing an awareness of other people’s feelings.
“Kevin has a great deal of difficulty focusing and listening during instruction. Following directions, both oral and written, is another area we need to concentrate on helping him to develop. He is easily distracted and often distracts his classmates.”
TRANSLATION: I think you need to speak with your pediatrician. I’m not a doctor, and I don’t advocate for using (or not using) medication. Each child’s needs are different, but Joseph is really struggling to keep up with the herd. Your pediatrician’s input could be valuable to all of us.
“Lila often comes to school without the materials she needs for the day, and her homework is often missing or incomplete. We want to help her develop a sense of responsibility for her school work, as well as her independence.”
TRANSLATION: I receive a lot of notes and emails from you about why Lila doesn’t complete her work at home. I think her outside interests in art, music, and sports are an important part of her development as a person, but something’s gotta give! I need your help at home! She needs you to supervise more diligently until she starts to develop some independence.
“Meghan has continued to progress as a learner this marking period. I am really happy to witness the growing confidence she is showing in her abilities, especially as a reader and a writer. Her ability to read between the lines and analyze text more independently is really coming along! Her writing is showing more flow as she learns to explain the connections she is making, and she is working hard to show these connections by adding details and revising her work. These skills will benefit her in her performance across the curriculum as more academic independence is expected of her.
TRANSLATION: You have a great kid! Thanks for working with me, for being honest and open in your communication with me, and for being so supportive and understanding with the challenges we are all facing with education today. Please know that you play an integral part of helping her have a fourth grade experience that is positive, productive, and a whole lotta’ fun!
Getting away with saying things
I don’t know which came first, the chicken or the egg shells…. I do know that in a meeting I had with my principal (our first, formal Marshall Plan evaluation meeting), he said, “I hope you understand what I mean when I say that you get away with saying things that other people don’t get away with.”
Evidently, the five year old version of me is alive and well, and can still “let her emotions get the better of her,” and has “a tendency to be rather loud and voiceful.” I guess Mrs. Underwood knew what she was talking about all those years ago.
I wonder what will become of the report card comments that I just finished writing for this quarter…many years from now?