Can Educators Learn to Disagree Respectfully?
A MiddleWeb Blog
I don’t have a TV. I haven’t had one for close to twenty years. This political season I was happier than ever to not have one. The rancor in politics repulses me.
I’m not going to hide my own politics – I’m a die-hard liberal, and I truly think there is more mud slung toward my side than from it. But, either way, I just don’t want to hear it, read it, or otherwise give it the time of day. I can’t totally escape it, but I do my best.
I see some of the same argumentative energy in the eduworld, especially on Twitter. It’s not government politics, but it feels eerily reminiscent of it.
Some educators seem to have become so dogmatic that they cannot tolerate or even hear other points of view. There can be a lack of empathy and kindness in edu-circles (again, especially on Twitter). Folks can be quick to jump on each other. Maybe you’ve seen it too?
Ideas Not Ideology
We have always been a profession that can fall prey to confrontational thinking — often resorting to either/or arguments that tend to be less than nuanced. Remember the reading wars? Actually, did they ever end? I don’t think so.
As a former classroom teacher, literacy specialist, school librarian, and a life-long promoter of books and reading, I was thrilled at the move to empower “passionate readers” and build “book love.” Truly, I strive to do both, and if you talk to the children and families in my community, they’ll say I am pretty darn effective at it.
But I don’t fit the current ideological mold. I have always been a gal who walks to the beat of a different drum, and as an educator I sometimes think differently than is the norm on Twitter, on the blogosphere, and at national conferences.
As such, I have experienced what feels like being ganged up on and accused (with some inflammatory rhetoric) of not serving students. I can take it. I taught middle school for so long that I don’t have regular human feelings: I am made of hard-cold steel! But is this behavior we want to model in our profession?
Rancor and Snark
For example, I once wrote about how I believe that leveled texts can be helpful for teachers and students alike and was met with rancor on Twitter, because leveling is now bad (even Fountas & Pinnell now say so, or at least that’s how folks are interpreting what they actually said). You can read my thoughts on leveled texts here, but for the purposes of this post, skipping down to the comments is more interesting. You’ll see that I am begged not to use leveled texts as I am “damaging” my kids.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe in fruitful argument and I appreciate what I call “problem-posing” very much. When it comes to ideas and innovations, a perspective from a different angle can be as instructive as it is invigorating. This is especially important to me as a school principal. I don’t want to be in an echo chamber with a bunch of yes-men supporting every harebrained idea I might throw out there.
But I don’t believe in being dogmatic, terse, dismissive, or otherwise rude either. I recently worked with my staff on the idea of “confronting with care,” being open and honest but in a way that seeks to understand and support rather than criticize. We have also worked on being careful with our words and actions so we don’t seem rude when we disagree. I believe that keeping an open mind, while maintaining professional decorum, is a good thing.
In the name of full disclosure, I have to come clean. There have been times when I’ve responded to criticism with snark of my own. Read my piece, snottily called, AR Killed My Dog and Now It’s Coming for YOU! A Defense of Accelerated Reader and a Plea for Less Drama, for a taste of my personal brand of sarcasm.
Different Doesn’t Mean Bad
The bottom line is that I have been in and out of enough effective teachers’ classrooms to know that there isn’t one best way to do anything. Some of my teachers would be described as “cutting edge.” Their classrooms have flexible seating, they use the workshop method in reading and writing, and their classrooms sometimes seem like organized chaos to outsiders peering in. They are GOOD teachers.
Other teachers have quiet rooms where kids are lined up in six by six rows of desks. Students learn in a more prescriptive manner, and the nurturing they get is not much more than an elbow bump here and there. They are GOOD teachers, too.
There is room for all of us.
And we should probably try to be more supportive of each other and more conscious of how our communications with each other come across, especially in social media.
Questions to consider
In thinking about how educators can be mindful of how and why we disagree with each other, I wrote the following questions.
- Is it possible that there is more than one right way to teach? Does the idea that teachers who teach VERY differently from what we might view as ideologically correct are still effective? If so, what does that mean in terms of the concept of “best practices”?
- Is professional disagreement about theory, method, and practice good for or bad for education on a whole?
- When we discuss disagreements, what is the purpose? Do we seek to change each other’s minds? Do we seek to listen and learn?
- How can we open ourselves enough to really hear other educators’ points of view?
- What does it mean to assume best intentions? How does that assumption change how we engage in constructive differences of opinion?
- How can we “confront with care” when we really think someone is doing something that is bad for kids or the profession?
- How do we avoid being in an echo chamber where we continually find support for our current views without having to really think about the views of others?
- How can we support our own beliefs and opinions without denigrating those of others?
- Is there a way to be forceful and kind/polite at the same time?
- How do people on both sides of an issue use or misuse research in the debate?
These questions are a starting place. I am not going to pretend I have the answers. But the thinking they inspire might help us all reach out and seek common ground — or at least common respect.